Being in love is the best thing and falling for the right person is a life worth living.
However, many of us at most times ‘mess up’ our relationships that would have been fruitful just because we don’t know what to do or just because we are desperate to find the people of our dreams who will never come.
If you are a woman/girlfriend who anticipates having a long lasting relationship with your partner, Boom Uganda columnist Julius Adams Nsereko shares his experience as he reveals girlfriend duties that can win every man’s heart for good;
1. Take care of him
The reality about relationships is that it is not one person’s responsibility to take care of the other. It is a mutual or collective responsibility. Partners must do their best to take care of one another.
What should a girlfriend do?
- Talking to him whenever he opens up because it shows you are listening and caring
- Indulging in romantic gestures since men find it special
- Making him feel less insecure to avoid him getting glum or avoiding you.
- You can also take care of your boyfriend by ensuring he does not take you for granted.
2. Enhance what made him attracted to you
Men get attracted to women in different ways. It could be your smile, your looks of love, your body type, or your interactions. One of your girlfriend duties is to enhance the things that got him attracted to you. Figure out the various ways of letting him see more of them so that he can remember how amazing you are.
3. Motivate him
Knowing how to treat your boyfriend well is not enough if you are not motivating him. As a girlfriend, you possess some unique powers that can inspire your man to help him to achieve his potential. Men tend to behave masculinely. But it is the selfless love of her woman that makes him want to change and become better.
4. Luxuriate him in a public display of affection
Men appreciate some form of light physical contact from the women they have a love interest. Although men do not care about a public display of affection, they love it when it is their girlfriend that does it. Holding his hand, putting your arm around him, and touching him fondly makes him gain insights into your thoughts of him.
5. Make him happy
One of the best qualities of a good girlfriend is making her man happy. It is one of the top responsibilities in a relationship. You can make your man happy by:
- Finding out what he wants from you
- Not ignoring him even when he is with his friends
- Praising him all times even in front of others
- Satisfying him emotionally and sexually
6. Dress well for him
A girl that looks good regularly attracts a man. While it may seem cliché, it is a girl’s responsibility to dress well and look sexy for her boyfriend. That also includes wearing a sexy outfit while in bed if you are in an intimate relationship.
7. Be there as a support system
It is natural for men to act strong. That is despite many of them suffering and tearing apart from inside. If you want to know how to become a good girlfriend, make it your responsibility to support him whenever he is undergoing or facing a difficult time.
Do not expect him to tell you what he is going through because men do not like looking weak. But encourage him to open up and show him support.
8. Be a good listener
What do girlfriends do? In any girlfriend-boyfriend relationship, one of the best qualities a girl can have is to listen to their partner and comprehend whatever they are telling each other.
As a good girlfriend, understand that you may not be in a position to solve all of your man’s problems. Since he realises this, be there to listen to him. It will make him feel that he is not alone.
9. Make him part of your life
If you have ever wondered what a boyfriend wants from his girlfriend, he wants you to make him part of your world. When you make your boyfriend part of your life, it makes him comfortable to be around you. Introduce him to your friends and family, show him your interests, and compromise where necessary.
10. Treat others well
Treating people well is one of the most basic human and life requirements. No man wants to stick with a woman that cannot treat others with kindness and respect. When you are kind to others, especially his family, it shows him you want to be with him and that the people around him are important to you too.
11. Be honest
Being honest with your boyfriend is a responsibility as his girlfriend. A man does not want to be with a dishonest or untruthful person. Furthermore, understand that men are not good at guessing. Making them guess what is in your mind will turn them off.
Be honest and say anything you are feeling or thinking. It will make it easier for him to deal with what arises.
12. Satisfy him sexually
When you get excited to please your man, it makes all the difference in his world. Satisfy him sexually by getting him into the groove and making sex fun for not only him but you too. While it is not necessary to do everything he wants you to do, communicate your desires and cater to him a bit. Open up about both of your sexual desires to make it satisfying for the two of you.
13. Be yourself
The worst thing you can do in a relationship is to be a fake person so that you can impress your boyfriend. While you may think he will prefer your phoney self at first, it only goes to show that both of you are not compatible. Be yourself and do not pretend to be someone you are not.
14. Work with him
Like many relationships, there are times when two people engage in conflicts and disagreements. While this happens all the time, you should work with him as a team. When you work with him, he will have your back. But most importantly, work together to fix things and do not let him do it alone.
15. Buy him a gift
You can make your relationship fun by buying your boyfriend a small gift. Men love getting presents from their girlfriends. Give him something special whenever you feel loving. Each present you give him will let him know you care and mean so much to him.
It pays to know the most fundamental girlfriend duties in a relationship. Men are simple people and need somebody that understands, supports, and takes care of them. While some responsibilities are two-way, fulfil yours by being open, honest, and working with your man.
16. Be his nurse
It is your duty as a girlfriend to play the nurse whenever your boyfriend is feeling unwell. You should always be by his side, feeding him soup and ensuring that he takes his medication as he is supposed to.
17. Trust him
Trust is one of the critical elements in any relationship, whether romantic or not. As a girlfriend, you must trust your man at all times. By doing this, you will make him feel secure, thus not worrying about being judged. In the long run, this will only make your bond stronger.
18. Be his therapist
A girlfriend must be her man’s therapist. This means that you will always be the only person he will come to whenever he has problems. So even though you won’t permanently fix time, he rests assured that someone is there for him.
It is a scary thing to think and feel like you are alone in this world. To avoid this, always make sure that he knows that you will always be there for him, especially during the hard times. Most of the time, all that a person wants is someone to be there for them and assure them all will be well.
19. Entertain him
It is the duty of a girlfriend to entertain their boyfriend. You don’t have to keep him occupied at all times but at least ensure that you are his source of joy. You should learn how to have fun as a couple as entertainment is an essential factor in a relationship. Do not let him feel bored but instead spice up his life with loads of fun and laughter.
20. Make him feel like he is important
To be in a healthy and functional relationship, it is vital to ensure that both of you feel like you make a significant difference in each other’s life. Even if you don’t need each other for survival, it will hurt you to live without them.
Therefore, as her girlfriend, you must help him whenever the need to do so arises. Therefore, a give and take relationship is one of the best, and that’s how it ought to be at all times.
21. Accept him
It is the role of a girlfriend to accept her boyfriend at all times and in all circumstances. Regardless of how weird his quirks are, love and take him. It is challenging to find a person with who you will be completely comfortable. Therefore, if you make your man feel that he can be himself around, it means that you are playing your role well.
22. Be his best friend
The word friend in girlfriend is there for a reason. You are there for snuggles and kisses and also as her best friend. Whether funny or not, laugh at all his jokes and listen to his stories, whether they are exciting or not.
23. Offer him a shoulder to cry on
Every person needs a shoulder, not cry, and this is no different to men. They, too, need a shoulder to cry on. As a girlfriend, it is your duty to allow your boyfriend to be vulnerable without judging him or using it against him. Always make sure that he knows that he can reach out to you whenever he feels like rock bottom.
24. Give him his personal space Every person needs their personal space, and this includes your boyfriend too. It is your duty as her girlfriend to allow him to spend time alone and respect his privacy. You should never invade his privacy by going through personal belongings such as books, journals, books, phones or diaries.
25. Split the bills with him
Being an independent woman is one of the most attractive traits a woman can have. It is a sign of strength and that you are smart enough to be trusted financially. However, being an independent woman is not enough as you should also be willing to share it with your boyfriend in paying bills.
26. Accept him the way he is
The moment you accept to be his girlfriend, it is an automatic sign that you have accepted him with all his strengths and weaknesses. You should never nag him or be rude because of the way he carries himself.
Accepting him the way he is, means that you will not be judgmental. This will make him comfortable being with you at any time and place.
27. Be faithful to him
It is an essential duty for a girlfriend to be faithful to her boyfriend. She must always be loyal to him. However, this does not mean that she cannot have other male friends around her. Instead, it means supporting his dreams and vision.
Being faithful to him also means defending him whenever other people are not being friendly towards him. You should avoid being in an open relationship as it is prone to hinder faithfulness.
28. Show him that you are secure with his love
It is the role of a girlfriend to show his boyfriend that she appreciates and feels secure. Immature women keep asking their men to prove their love, and it is not a great thing to do. It is a sign that you are not secure with the love he is professing to you.
However, this should not be the case since he has already proven his love by pursuing you and winning you over. Therefore, he doesn’t have to tell you he loves you daily or grab everyone’s attention to prove that he loves you.
29. Know how to have fun
Having fun means different things to different people. However, no man wants to be with a girlfriend who is always stiff and conscious.
Therefore, it is essential to be someone with who your man can have fun. The two of you should be able to enjoy a range of fun activities such as:
- Evening walk/ Touring together
- Playing video games
- Spending time together
30. Make sacrifices for him
As a girlfriend, you should also learn to make sacrifices for him because that is precisely what girlfriends do. It is not a must for you to do something dire or extravagant, but it is necessary to take time out of your day and make it brighter.
It is a sign of how much you love and care about him. To have a healthy relationship, a girlfriend should be honest and open with their partner.
She should also be supportive by performing girlfriend duties since men have different wants and needs.
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